No Kidding-2


The post ‘No kidding’  has got lots of responses. Most of the people find today’s kids hyper. That got my thought process started. Are the teachers and Parent spoiling them? The answer is Yes and No. They are not to be blamed fully. We are all a product of our environment. It is the circumstances and experiences that make us. And so are kids today.We grew up in a completely different environment as compared to these kids.
Few reason kids are the way they are could be:
Most parents do not have time to give their kids and to compensate that loss they give in to every whim and fancy of their child.
There are no joint families anymore. One of the biggest advantage of joint families are that kids learn to adjust and share.
No relatives come visiting to your place in vacations neither do you go to somebody else’s place. Instead you attend a host of classes to improve your personality, skills, knowledge,whatever.
Family outings include “Mom,Dad, Brother/Sister(if any), me and our doggy” in the family car.
Affluency may be good for the economy but not in this case. With disposable income increasing by the day kids don’t share as much as a eraser with anybody. Each has his/her own mobile, computer…
They don’t need other kids for playing anymore. They are busy with watching cartoon, playing video games, with their playstations or surfing on the net.
The emphasis on external appearences is too high not just for themselves but even their parents. I recently heard somebody say he was made to dye his hair otherwise his daughter wouldn’t let him meet her friends.
They have everything available at the click of a button/mouse or just a phone call away.
They get too much of attention in everything they do. Right from what they eat, which school they attend, what homework they do, tuitions they attend, what results they get and what talent they possess and how do they go about developing them.
The level of exposure is pretty high. It is not confined to books or school thanks to TV and Internet. Hence you get to see lots of grown up kids.
Infact growing up in this age must be really difficult with so many expectations. And so much to take in and so little time. Stress levels are really high. Almost negligible outdoor activity. I kind of sympathise with them.

The post ‘No kidding’ has got lots of responses. Most of the people find today’s kids hyper. That got my thought process started. Are the teachers and Parent spoiling them? The answer is Yes and No. They are not to be blamed fully. We are all a product of our environment. It is the circumstances and experiences that make us. And so are kids today.We grew up in a completely different environment as compared to these kids.

Few reason kids are the way they are could be:

  • Most parents do not have time to give their kids and to compensate that loss they give in to every whim and fancy of their child.
  • There are no joint families anymore. One of the biggest advantage of joint families are that kids learn to adjust and share.
  • No relatives come visiting to your place in vacations neither do you go to somebody else’s place. Instead you attend a host of classes to improve your personality, skills, knowledge,whatever.
  • Family outings include “Mom,Dad, Brother/Sister(if any), me and our doggy” in the family car.
  • Affluency may be good for the economy but not in this case. With disposable income increasing by the day kids don’t share as much as a eraser with anybody. Each has his/her own mobile, computer…
  • They don’t need other kids for playing anymore. They are busy with watching cartoon, playing video games, with their playstations or surfing on the net.
  • The emphasis on external appearences is too high not just for themselves but even their parents. I recently heard somebody say he was made to dye his hair otherwise his daughter wouldn’t let him meet her friends.
  • They have everything available at the click of a button/mouse or just a phone call away.
  • They get too much of attention in everything they do. Right from what they eat, which school they attend, what homework they do, tuitions they attend, what results they get and what talent they possess and how do they go about developing them.
  • The level of exposure is pretty high. It is not confined to books or school thanks to TV and Internet. Hence you get to see lots of grown up kids.

Infact growing up in this age must be really difficult with so many expectations. And so much to take in and so little time. Stress levels are really high. Almost negligible outdoor activity. I kind of sympathise with them.

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5 thoughts on “No Kidding-2

  1. Sappy: The post comes up just in time a journalist known to me is working on survey/story on parenting issues ( I have shared links of your blog with her).

    Whatever points you have covered actually say it all.. I just feel the kids these days lack values. I wonder why parents dont realise the importance of them and even if they do- they damn it.

    The fact remains affection/love/pampering cannot be confused with giving into all the demands made by a child.

    If a parent adopts the following simple practices-life would be so much better! I believe in indulging the children with loads of love but their has to be limit on everything!

    Rewards- fix a reward sheet- the rewards should be more in form of praise than materialistic things

    Not to do list: make a list and stick it on the fridge- no fowl language, not to speak rudely to anyone including the house helps. etc

    But why am I giving all these pointers here- mayur key toh bachey nahin hai and I think rest od us are happily single! 🙂

    • Thanks Kam for sending the link to this post. Loved reading it.

      When I read the first sentence I thought Arun is a high school teacher. PG marks being sent to parents!!

      I am only surprised it is done systematically otherwise it is an Indian trait. I even had a manager once ask me “Do you want me to call your parents?” when something went wrong.

      P.S: I have had a Khalil Gibran book in my cupboard from a long time but I haven’t read it. Now I know what gems it contains and needs to be quickly taken out from cupboard and read.

      Sorry for putting my comment about the post here instead of the actual post but I tried atleast 12-13 times. Blogpost is just not ready to believe I am not a robot.

      • May be in the Book of Khalil Gibran you have in your Cupboard might not have this particular gem. Somehow, if I am not extremely wrong, I could not find this one even under his Complete Works. I don’t read books seriously, but when I open them for stuff like this, they are not found! 😀 May be books don’t like readers/visitors like me! Hahaha…. 😀
        Doesn’t matter whether you put it or not. For all you know, that’s another link. Hahaha…. Anyone can google. Don’t worry! 🙂

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